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Being Honest

Most of our life we are just pretending to be someone that we are not. I have read somewhere that a single person have generally 2 to 3 different personalities. We keep switching among these personalities on different circumstances. But somewhere in the middle of switching personalities we stop being honest with ourself and with persons we love and care for.

Sometimes you have to be honest in order to achieve inner peace. for example you are in a job which you pretend that you really but like deep down you know that you your job is boring and that is not good for you but because of various reasons you keep suppressing this voice and you keep pretending that everything is fine. If you just sit down for some moments and listen to the voice inside you, probably you can figure out some alternatives and you can live your life to fullest.

The same applies when you are not honest with the some other person. you really like them and care for them but many times you are not being honest with them, whether it is criticizing them or appreciating them or expressing your emotions for them. you have a little fear inside of you that what will they think about you. This can affect your relation with them.

Not being honest can destroy your mental peace as well as can harm your relationships with people. We can't completely get rid of the different personalities we live with but one thing we can do is that we can sit down sometimes and can be truly honest with ourselves and other people. this exercise help us become better persons for our own self as well as the people we care for.

To promote this practice more and more I made a little fun tool which you can use to share your honest thoughts with someone. Here is a link to that PS. I am not looking at any of the messages you are sending so don't worry and be honest <3



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